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How to submit your story

If you've been there—real relationships, real mistakes, real lessons—your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear.

The most valuable content on this site doesn't come from research papers or reference articles. It comes from people like you.

You don't need to be a writer​

Community stories don't need perfect grammar, clever structure, or a tidy narrative arc. They need to be honest. If you can describe what happened and what you learned from it, that's enough. The editorial team can help with polish if needed.

What makes a good submission​

The stories that help people most tend to share a few qualities:

  • They're specific. "Communication is important" is advice. "Here's the conversation that almost ended our relationship and how we recovered" is a story.
  • They're honest about the hard parts. Stories that only show the good stuff feel incomplete. The moments where things were difficult, confusing, or painful are often the most useful parts.
  • They don't require a happy ending. Some of the most valuable stories are about relationships that ended, or about lessons learned the hard way. Honesty matters more than optimism.
  • They focus on what you learned. The reader wants to take something away. What would you tell someone in the same situation?

What to leave out​

  • Real names or identifying details. Use fake names, change locations, alter identifying circumstances. Your story can be true without being traceable.
  • Other people's private information. Don't out anyone. Don't share details that could identify partners, metamours, or anyone else without their explicit consent. When in doubt, leave it out.
  • Graphic sexual content. This is a relationship resource, not erotica. Mention what's relevant to the story; skip what isn't.

How submission works​

  1. Head to the web editor and sign in with GitHub
  2. Choose "Community Story" as the content type
  3. Write your story (or paste it in from somewhere else)
  4. Submit it for review

Every submission is reviewed by the editorial team before it goes live. We check for privacy issues, readability, and tone, but we don't rewrite your voice or judge your choices. The review is about making sure the story is safe to publish, not about deciding whether your experience was "correct."

If we need to suggest changes, we'll explain why. You always get the final say on your own story.

Not sure where to start?​

Check the story prompts page for optional starting questions that can help you figure out what to write about.